Monday, October 17, 2011

We will NEVER understand why.....

We will stand tall...we will get through this. I wake every morning, hoping this was all a nightmare.

Kali's team mate will forever be changed. Thanks to a coward monster. Rest in PEACE Michelle. You will certainly be missed. You will certainly be remembered in our community...soccer, school and beyond. We will protect and surround your little sweets with much love for many many years....that is for sure.



As I sat in the dentist chair on this Wednesday....scared...so so scared of my "root canal"- I woke up that morning with the ughs..poor me...As I sat there frightened...my phone is being called, over and over. I knew my little family was aware where I sat....I waited until the doctor finished. Checked and several friends were texting me, asking me if I knew anything about the salon that was just shot into. I didn't...I actually thought it was a different location...I drove home, turned on the tv, following more, receiving text after texts' from friends...all finding out who "might" have been in there....I had a very scared feeling, we would soon know...and we most certainly would know someone. First finding of one person we knew...to be called by Bill shortly after that "Christy" was one of them.


The sound of that. Just to know what laid ahead in these days. Indescribable.


Several vigil's surrounded Seal and Lakewood, from the ocean to the streets. Support from around the world. The unity for these 8 people that were loved by many.


Kali's Beach girls gathered at the first vigil. Trying to absorb the pain. Trying to share words with Lisa, how bad they felt. Dressed in their Beach shirts, showing their love. I have not seen Kali cry as hard before. She said to me "Mom, it's so sad that Michelle will never see Lisa get married, or go to prom". It's truly sickening.

The Salon is covered in sad love notes. Heart wrenching. I have a hard time approaching anything of this sort. It was very hard for me to go to the Vigil. I only went for Kali...For some reason, I stay back. It's just a strange part of me. Bill so kindly took many pictures for me. At the high school they dedicated one whole room to honor the families...with more love notes. And good-byes....

In the midst of all of this tragedy, we have our biggest fundraiser of the year. Our board works hard on it for months....it so happened to be this weekend. I also signed Kali and I up to work the morning shift. While Kali was tutored, Bill and I headed to Trader Joe's and Smart and Final to load our car with goods for Paul and Christy's. And soon realized that we needed to get over to Paul and Christy's and help. Any way we can. Bill headed over, and stayed with Paul....Took his car to get washed...stayed there for a while...I made arrangements with Olive Garden (Who rocked!) for dinner. I also arranged with Mi Casa, a small mexican restaurant by me to supply as well. Olive Garden supplied free salads. The pasta's, soups and salads were superb! Mi Casa offered amazing chicken enchilada's with rice and beans. Both of these places served enough for 40.


Standing in Paul and Christy's house. Looking around at her family life. Her pictures...her sandals sitting by the front door. Her half empty bottle of wine... Just knowing the whole world came to a screeching halt. As her sister picked out what she'll wear at her viewing. I just couldn't put a solid grip around. Standing in her house...the house that us mommies build. We will surround The Wilson's with anything we can to help. Each fire truck that arrives with food, support...each neighbor, all our friends that have arrived. Christy you will be missed more than words can describe. But you did leave an amazing foot print on many peoples soul.

The love in pictures kept my tears flowing. The faces of all those that arrived to give support and love. Just looking into the eyes of Paul and his babies....trying to wish all the strength in them during these days- No one is prepared for this. Paul said they were supposed to have lunch that afternoon. He has not went a day without talking with his wife....until now.

Fun girl. Pauly, we will do everything we can for you.

During the crazy hectic week, I promised my team and board that I would beautify many many baskets. I worked on them each night.

Totaling about 20. Finished proudly. Supporting Girls Soccer!

We arrived Saturday night to eat and drink.....Our original plan last week was to meet at our Fav place Tantalum's for a sunset cocktail...with our buddies Randy and Carmen....Well...that got all switched around...BUT we still managed to spend the night with them. It's always warm to be with good friends...those that stand tall with you during the storm.
And that we (I) did....My makeup was a mess...my eyes were puffy. But I just sipped all night long. ugh. lol

And I didn't stop. I was unwinding...not realizing this wine was gonna bite me hard yesterday.


Real hard. Yes. That is champagne too. ugh.

Sunday's game in Redondo. Watching my sweet pea play...one of my favorite places in the world to be.



Beautiful day. To take home a win too.

Kris brought this baby home. Yes we will foster him for a few days....it did make our house smile. But oh' my. Not something else for me to take care of. ugh. During these last few crazy difficult days, several things have been reminded to all of us. We aren't promised tomorrow. It's very important to squash the little things that upset you. Love those family and friends that might drag you down or disappoint. Remember to tell them how much you love them. Tell your friends you love them often. Hug and kiss your sweets often too. You just never know.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

I call him "Parker"...

For the last few weeks I've fed this little guy. I first tossed out some sunflower seeds..while talking to him....he let me just "toss" them out.....far across past the sidewalk....meanwhile, I kept talking to him....
Then we moved onto Organic Pumpkin Seeds....to which...HE LOVES....and he let me get even closer...
Yesterday afternoon he proceeded to come up to my walkway....we tossed him Organic Granola...more seeds and more raisins. It's amazing to look so close at this little guy(he IS a boy...nuts....LOL)...just watching his face, looking at eachother eye to eye... his little hands move with happiness...enjoying each treat. Our worries in the world seem to fade away while we share something so simple with earths little helpless and amazing little creature. I call him Parker. He lives across the street, up in a big tree, across the lines....I pray for his safe arrival and departures. I see him daily now. Dad...you must be smiling ear to ear.

Saturday, October 8, 2011

It's weeks that end like this.....

It's friday evening's that I look forward to. Unwinding...after a VERY long, and grueling week. I was able to share it with my dear friend Maria...

After tucking away my last part of the weeks tasks, soccer stuff, fundraiser stuff...and arranging Miss. Kali with friends for her adventure...my evening folded into the home of my friends house. We soon headed over to Naples ....cozied up in our own little sofa chair and table..next to a fireplace...paired with an amazing wine from Italy...Calabria "Magno Megonio"-Librandi. AAAAmmmmazzzing. It's the last minute plans. They sometimes just work. The new place she swept me off to....just the two of us. To catch up...to laugh and share mom stories...as our teen girls were also carted off to Knott's Scary Farm. We were able to talk about the life of our teens, the life of our own...the amazing journey us parents embark in. Good girls. Hardworking...made to appreciate all we work to give them. We shared an amazing few hours...with superb wine...(to say the least)...and yummy flat bread pizza with fresh basil, and a pesto sauce to die for. I highly recommend this Ristorante to my local beach fan-fare folks...it's close. It's on 2nd. St. Just as you cross the bridge over Mother's Bay. It's busy. It serves downstairs....(with a bar)...but sneak upstairs for the covered patio, warm feeling..live music, classical..or string guitar...just loud enough....be patient for the perfect seat. Take your love...or take a friend. Perfect place for a couple. Enjoy. I sure did.
Kali's group....along with many many others....arranged their friday night to land here. I have NEVER been a fan of scary movies, scary places, or haunted houses. yuk. Late night for her...I knew she deserved it. I knew she makes good decisions. I knew they were all together. Let them run amuck and be scared together.
1976...When I was 6. My parents planned a trip to Knott's Scary Farm. I remember the excitement to go. I ALSO REMEMBER.....the very first few steps into this place, my two very long braids, a big cave...some gnarly gorilla comes out...grabs my braids....attempts to pull me back near that cave...my parents are laughing, yes laughing... I'm screaming...they continue to laugh...I scream more. Removed myself from the hands of that gorilla...and HAVE NEVER EVER EVER....been back during this spooky time of year. And have never watched a scary movie since either. If things in life don't melt my soul with laughter and happiness...I tend to steer clear.
I woke up to the MOST beautiful day out. It's crispy. It's clear. I drove to the beach to capture my sweet tired teen....I hit a yard sale on the way home...I have a hair appointment today that I count down the minutes to arrive to. And I wish all of you the perfect weekend. Today looks like it will close with the perfect sunset. If you are near the mountains...or near the ocean. Catch the sunset. Shared with those you love. With a great glass of wine...or your choice of drink. Catch it. Life is fast.

Friday, October 7, 2011

Wow....it IS FINALLY FRIDAY.....

This. Week. Has. Been...one I would rather tally as, never look back again. From the moment Monday started, I felt as though I was walking against the tide. Against the Earth. Against common sense....and have been buried with work, meetings, appts. driving, cooking and more driving.....along with the other daily life worries of offering my mommy hood to K & K. Both kids have successfully kicked the bottom out of tests, speeches, and quizzes for the week. YES to tutoring. At 50.00 per hour, you'd pray they come home with great news. Kali hit a 98% on Geometry..and Kris anxiously blasted through a speech on "The disgusting life of Litter". They both did awesome! And for that I am very proud.

People frustrated me more this week than others, things frustrated me more than normal. But it's Friday. I am choosing to change the things I can. Work on the things I can't. And make a difference for me. That's who's most important. You might wonder...why the horse? haha! Well....simply because days like the ones I climbed through remind me of how awesome animals are. They sit. They listen. And they love with every bit of their souls......I often dream of owning farm animals, living on a farm out near the coast up north....feeding them, watering flowers...and making wonderful meals...while staring out at the ocean.....Dream Dream Dreams......Cheers to Friday everyone....Just staring at this picture, thinking about standing there petting him...with nothing around...just the sound of quiet.....the smell of that dewy grass....the gentle breeze touching my skin...he is so sweet looking..... Go be with the ones you love. Nothing short.

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Thank you for urging the world to think different....


At the very moment, I was home frazzled by my printer and home computer, both not cooperating...both frustrating, and not speaking their computer language to me or each other....I over heard devastating news. News that the person that inspired the entire world, was painfully taken by Cancer. I soon realized that my little frustration was a mere lost thought considering the pain his family is enduring. That my little hiccup with computer/printer will be resolved. I just heard the most iconic innovator of our world, is gone. He paved the way for the future. For our children. For our grandchildren. Music was changed by I-Tunes, Pixar was welcomed to our world...(which I must say...I am not a big movie or tv person...yet my favorite choice is to cuddle up and watch ANY Pixar film...especially Toy Story and UP...). In fact as I sit here blogging for the first time on Kali's beautiful MacBook, I reminded over and over again what a genius he was. Her MacBook is superb. This beautiful white MacBook is the new generation of what life will be like for her and her children. We will forever be in debt to you....we love our IPOD, MacBook's, ITunes, and soon I wish for an Ipad. I will remind my children this forever and share something I read last night that he offered at a commencement address: SOMETIMES LIFE HITS YOU IN THE HEAD WITH A BRICK. DON'T LOSE FAITH. I'M CONVINCED THAT THE ONLY THING THAT KEPT HIM GOING WAS LOVING WHAT HE DID. YOU'VE GOT TO FIND WHAT YOU LOVE. AND THAT IS AS TRUE FOR YOUR WORK AS IT IS FOR YOUR LOVERS. YOUR WORK IS GOING TO FILL A LARGE PART OF YOUR LIFE, AND THE ONLY WAY TO BE TRULY SATISFIED IS TO DO WHAT YOU BELIEVE IS GREAT WORK. AND THE ONLY WAY TO DO GREAT WORK IS TO LOVE WHAT YOU DO. IF YOU HAVEN'T FOUND IT YET, KEEP LOOKING. DON'T SETTLE. AS WITH ALL MATTERS OF THE HEART, YOU'LL KNOW WHEN YOU FIND IT. AND, LIKE ANY GREAT RELATIONSHIP, IT JUST GETS BETTER AND BETTER AS THE YEARS ROLL ON. SO KEEP LOOKING UNTIL YOU FIND IT. DON'T SETTLE....

Lost during a time when corporate devastation is all around us, he was so needed.

Thank you Steve Jobs. Thank you for urging the entire world to think different. I hope Kris and Kali continue to prosper with all of your diamonds...I mean apples in the sky..... Rest peacefully legend SJ. My blogging heart thanks you for the right to share my world in the hands of your genius inventions....

Sunday, October 2, 2011

Baby...Baby...Baby......and BEACH Soccer....!

Wasn't yellow the standard color back in the day for babyshowers? Now a days we plan, prepare, and find out just exactly what is growing inside of us....(at least some of us...) My Aunt Susie makes flower arrangements for all of us, for special occasions, and has for years. I think they are just beautiful!

We know that the latest addition and our cousin is a boy....Due in December and anticipated by many....

My cousin Janine made these awesome cupcakes...and cheesecakes. YUM!


Little Damian...with his ever so famous big grin.

My little sweets....(We were checking out the horses next door...)


Dominic and Janine....And little baby J. 11 weeks to go!


Cousins.......


Preparing the games.....

The Aunts. The planners.

Me. Taking a shot at it. I actually was the leader to win. I had 15 in one hand. LOL!


My competitve side.


My hand was shaking so much at the end. Just couldn't get that very last one. The winner had 17.

My Aunt Annette made these diaper candy party favors. ANYONE born in the 60's and 70's will remember the popular party favor such as these. I love them!


So this next game was "Who could make a baby out of playdoh in 2 minutes". Funny. Funny. Funny. And very interesting.

The winner. So clever. So unique. So cute.


Mine. HAHAHA!!!!!!I thought I was clever with a DIAPER!


Another AWESOME and funny game was "Having a baby"- She froze little babies...in ice cubes...and handed each of us one...with a paper towel...to rub and rub and rub...and melt the ice off the baby to birth it. Talk about funny. Our hands were freezing, but the papertowel helps. These 3 games, were so unique. So fun. And so new. Loved it.



Traditional cake cutting. Awwww....



There you have Grandma Nettie! Her only son is having a son. Count down begins....(She's a labor and delivery nurse...and Dominic's dad is a OB GYN.)

Opening our gift.

We brought some Huntington Surf & Sport to the valley! Such cute little onesies, and sweatshirts for little surfer babies....

Dominic and Adela - Bro and Sis....as she is ready to depart to Homecoming Dance 2011- Adela was taking quite a few "Tips" and advice from all the Aunties in the house....lol. Beautiful girl. Soccer player too! (Goalie)- Senior year.

As Kali and I departed for home...the sun was starting to set...the weather was so so perfect...I had on my favorite music....Jack Johnson....and as we approached the city line of Los Angeles...I explained to Kali that my grandparents were raised and married in this very town. I said "Let's cruise through there now, ok?" She said...yes, lets. I exited Fourth Street....Over this bridge...and so she snapped away...we opened my little sun roof...we played our music...and almost speechless, cruised in awe.

Really no where to be. Just to quickly see.









We were soon adjusted back to reality...which in our world is either soccer, or school work. Arriving in Redondo Beach...and probably one of the nicest fields we've played at.

Silly warm ups..?


Versus Victorville. Rough girls. Tough attitude. Strange. Lot's of yellow cards in this game. Tied 0-0.

Our polite Beach Girls aren't quite used to attitudes that come with the territory I guess. Hmmmmmm-I'm from Norwalk. Sitting on the sidelines can be brutal for me at times. It's that mother lion, ghetto part that springs out at times. But I sit. Very very quietly. I bite my tongue. I pray for safe endings and big wins.


It's SUNDAY night... BOOO! My success for today was an awesome new recipe for dinner. Everyone LOVED. Which always makes this mama happy. A prepared fridge for the week of yummy breakfasts, lunches and dinners. A decorated Halloween themed house...Count down to Friday again.......Be happy for what you have everyone. So many have nothing.