Tip for those with little ones.

Code words.

When I used them, and why.

"Jake the snake", was the code word for my boy.

It was used if and when he was anywhere away from us.  Most importantly if he wasn't comfortable, and needed me to come and get him.

It was mainly used if he spent the night with friends....and/or family.

This word can be made up of something fun, silly, serious or real.  They just need that code word.

If ever they are somewhere and things just aren't right.....they can use that word, and you will be on the way.
This doesn't always mean that something creepy is going on.  Just an uncomfortable scenario.
So it's up to you to lead the exit out.  Explaining to the friend, or family member just why you are swingin' back by....ha.
And don't get me wrong, I know there are moments when they are with safe family members, (Grandma and Grandpa) and it's known they are fine, just missing you....

But you get my point, right?

From separation anxiety, to night time worry, there should be a choice.
Especially when we can't trust the judgements of others, not to mention the abusive sides to some.
Whether it's something in the home, or someone in the home that doesn't let them feel comfy.  Always give them an exit.

Kali's little word was  "Hannah" ....if only she would stay. 
She wouldn't.

Often times, she would accept a slumber party invite, and ask that I explain to the parents of her early departure.  There were a few houses she'd gladly spend the night at.  Usually just family.

It always worked.

I understood. 

Soon, they grow and that word is a just a memory with meaning for discussion down the road....

This day and age, they need a little code word.
For their protection, and yours.

Trust me.

And trust them.



Talk about those code words tonight with your little ones.  The meaning.  And the real reason for them.  Do it.

Step outside for some fresh air, and remember, the greatest moments in this life, are the simplest. 


Toodles,

L